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Tuesday, July 17, 2007

Everything happens for a reason

I firmly believe this. Everything really does happen for a reason. I also believe that something good happens out of everything.

We got burgled. Our privacy had been invaded. Our wealth had been taken away. But we got something in return. We got to meet our neighbours. And become friends with them. Leftover dinners are more fun because of the people we can share them with.

We went out for a picnic with some friends and friends of friends. S slipped and hurt his ankle. I thought, "What next? How much are we being tested? And for what?" But I've been a reluctant driver for most part. I love zooming on 2 wheelers, but I've never had a connection of any kind with four wheelers. And I had to drive S back from the hospital. And take him there again and bring him back. And I figured I can do it.

There is a reason why something happens. That reason may not be apparent to us. Maybe it will be after a while, maybe it won't. But that doesn't take away from the fact that there is a reason.

I've felt pain in the past when a relationship fell apart. But the guy did something that showed me it wasn't worth it in the first place. That was my reason. That took a part of the pain away.

Maybe I'm a die hard optimist or maybe I'm just a realist. But seeing the good that comes out of any bad just helps me deal with life better. The good incidents do help me enjoy life, the good that I see in the bad, helps me cope.

With all the ups and downs that life threw our way, S and I complete 10 months of being husband and wife. All I can say is that it has been loads of fun.

13 comments:

Revathi said...

Hi dhati,
I think you BELIEVE everything happens for a reason, and I don't. I believe things happen in random. I have seen horrible things happen to nice people without an ounce of reason. For e.g. someone very great who is the sole bread winner of a family got into an accident and is paralyzed for rest of life. He could not collect insurance since it was a police officer who crashed on him and threatened him not to file a case for insurance cliams even. Since this guy has a teenage daughter he let it go. He used to do heavy travelling for business and now totally immobile...
I just think he got Unlucky while I have been lucky and there is no reason he deserves it more than me or anyone else.
But, I do believe if your belief gives you strength and courage in short term, why not?

Goutham said...

Even I like to believe that something good can come out of any situation. It, at the least, gives an anxious mind a glimmer of hope.

Best wishes!

Aaarti said...

Hey Gurl

just hang in ther as always and hope there are only good things in store for u here on...

take care
love n hugsss

lipstick said...

I agree, Eveything is life is linked to some other thing.Everything is with reason. Sometimes we see the reason,sometimes we don't and when we don't see the reason, it casuses more pain and havoc.

Don't worry. Hang in there.
Cheers

Raaga said...

@Revathi: Yes, I believe this and a lot of things on my blog are about what I think, feel and believe... they're really random thoughts, and not random facts :-)

@Goutham: Yeah... its that little sliver of hope that we can hold on to to move on.

@Aaroo: Thanks :-)

@Lipstick: I agree that not seeing the reason causes more pain.

Revathi said...

I know :)
but if all the time people only comment on blogs that they do agree with, it is not fun, is it?

Laksh said...

Enjoyed reading your musings. Could relate a lot to your posts. This one and the one on dressing comfy.

C*h*i*l*l said...

Raaga,

Enna Koduma Saravanan Ithu...( Background Music)

//Leftover dinners are more fun because of the people we can share them with.// - Unga iththu pona leftover dinner-a "share" panrathukku pakkathu veettu neighbours thaan kedachaangalaa... Ayyo Paavam

//But I've been a reluctant driver for most part. I love zooming on 2 wheelers, but I've never had a connection of any kind with four wheelers. And I had to drive S back from the hospital. And take him there again and bring him back. And I figured I can do it.// - Neenga car otti pazhaga unga husband kaal thaan kedachuthaa... Ah haa... Kelambittaangayyaa Kellambittaangayyaa

Jokes Apart... I wouldn't consider this an optimistic post... I would probably call it a post of reasoning... Finding a reason or justification for the bad things that happen... Which is a very VERY good thing... It makes life simpler... and less complex

Damitra said...

Hi there...tx for asking.have been busy...didnt realize its been so long!

I tend to agree with 'chill' Another person need not view things this way. I think you choose to see the good things and therefore, i also believe that good things will keep happening more than the bad! Its all perception. And you have got it right.

Raaga said...

@Laksh: I'll be more regular :-) and I'm glad you enjoy the posts.

@Chill: If this is what it takes, then so be it, ille? :-)

@Damitra: Good to have you back. And yeah, this is afterall my blog :-)

smilie said...

I believe one has to be very strong minded to be die hard optimist.
Sometimes when I try to be this way, the other side of me keep telling that am consoling myself just because i dont have the control on what that happens.
Sometimes when am too optimist I also feel somewhere in the corner "hope am not fooling myself".???

Vincent said...

Absolutely! Totally agree. And have a very firm belief in karma as well. :)

MeetaK said...

Raaga! I am sure that something good always comes out of the so called "bad" - it's just while you are dwelling in the "bad" it makes no sense at all and that is what I am in right now. I appreciate your words though - because you and everyone supporting me give me hope and it feels good! Thanks so much!