tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post5547235722019852109..comments2023-10-19T03:48:03.950-07:00Comments on Random Thoughts: Occupational HazardsRaagahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14736416344880614248noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-42971714139858655422010-06-17T00:21:58.296-07:002010-06-17T00:21:58.296-07:00I really wouldn't know the whole asking-for-fa...I really wouldn't know the whole asking-for-favors-from-long-lost-friends part because I'm not quite at that stage where people ask me for favors, but I completely agree with you on what you said in the first part of your post.<br />I got pretty good grades in 10th and actually passed my math and sciences exams, which I honestly cant understand how as I hate math and physics and for the life of me can't understand WHY we have to study those abominations. Anyways, after my 10th I chose to enter the Arts stream and then go off and study Anthropology and World Trade (which I'm currently doing). My parents completely supported me and were happy that I found something I was passionate about, but all my old teachers and various aunties and uncles totally objected as they expected that I 'should atleast do commerce if not science'<br /> It's so frustrating to see that even in this day and age people look down upon the Arts field and discourage anyone who tries to do something different. Not everyone is cut-out to be an engineer or a doctor. It's just so sad to read about 15 and 16 year olds who have committed suicide just because they didn't get into the IITs or AIIMS. Life really shouldn't have to be that hard that the only option you see is suicide, especially not at that age.Chaitalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17753400449763347649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-18980956433372241812008-03-10T04:20:00.000-07:002008-03-10T04:20:00.000-07:00Raaga,So many comments and yet not one person acce...Raaga,<BR/><BR/>So many comments and yet not one person accepts the fact that we've all had to take favor from someone we knew( maybe even a long time back), as a contact but not as a friend. I HAVE done it, though I try my level best not to disturb people I know little about.<BR/><BR/>There might be furore and ill-feeling about the existence of person like me amongst the saints who commented here, but I do not care. After all, wasn't it Jesus who said “Whoever is without sin among you, let them cast the first stone.”Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-87221709210980831152007-10-05T05:15:00.000-07:002007-10-05T05:15:00.000-07:00OK ! I am having major brain farts. I got confused...OK ! I am having major brain farts. I got confused about when I joined PU. I got there in '96 and your timeline is correct ! Sorry ! Guess the madras heat isnt agreeing with me ! -Lavanya.mysterious_maladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17228019053553935199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-86408722393983491202007-10-05T05:13:00.000-07:002007-10-05T05:13:00.000-07:00Yes ! Same person. I thought you joined in '97 but...Yes ! Same person. I thought you joined in '97 but I guess I was wrong ! -Lavanya.mysterious_maladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17228019053553935199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-51419478967520284612007-10-04T22:18:00.000-07:002007-10-04T22:18:00.000-07:00I do remember a Lavanya... who joined a year befor...I do remember a Lavanya... who joined a year before I did... same person?? Lakshmi's batch?Raagahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14736416344880614248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-72935833592434507862007-10-04T09:25:00.000-07:002007-10-04T09:25:00.000-07:00Oh Jeez. I feel like a sleaze now. I just moved ba...Oh Jeez. I feel like a sleaze now. I just moved back from the US towards the end of my PhD without completing it for various reasons and am now in the process of looking for jobs. People have been forwarding my resume to friends and friends of friends. <BR/><BR/>I just hope for an interview knowing that the interview will let them know my calliber but after reading this I am not so sure. See, I have principles too and it would piss me off to no end if I were used this way. Actually, coming to think of it, it has !<BR/><BR/>I am, also, not one of those people who keep calling and bugging the person that's doing you a favour by forwarding your resume.<BR/><BR/>Not sure if you remember me but I was in PU, doing integrated MSc., when you were in your second year.<BR/><BR/>Lavanya.mysterious_maladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17228019053553935199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-77571223460179470472007-08-30T05:45:00.000-07:002007-08-30T05:45:00.000-07:00I was here earlier. Thought I had left a comment. ...I was here earlier. Thought I had left a comment. Saw nothing today. <BR/><BR/>Aaaaanyway, I have had my share of meeting such random jerks and having been told to "ignore them, hota hai". I call such people A-class jerks you know. Still working on how to actually deal with them. Good post ya.methodactorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10247808974117256828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-50513582401205189322007-08-29T19:22:00.000-07:002007-08-29T19:22:00.000-07:00hmmmm...recos and referrals are have their pros an...hmmmm...recos and referrals are have their pros and cons, i guess.<BR/><BR/>But what I can't understand is that why ppl take it personally if a favorable outcame doesnt materialize. And actually take it out on a person who tried to help. I get very annoyed with ppl who demand that u put their priorities above everything else.<BR/><BR/>And ur blog seems to be....well...the word that comes to mind is "friendly" !! Shall drop by often :)Rainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13750685920160467972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-81961039863853104742007-08-27T03:44:00.000-07:002007-08-27T03:44:00.000-07:00@Smilie and Anaghh: Thanks@Smilie and Anaghh: ThanksRaagahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14736416344880614248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-10135365841390138512007-08-27T03:41:00.000-07:002007-08-27T03:41:00.000-07:00Don't you think the fact that someone recommended ...Don't you think the fact that someone recommended you to an interview acts as a deterrent in some way? I mean, there'll be every kind of pressure... to perform later as well? And if you get the job you can't say no or can't quit because it just changes so many equations... I'll say do it on your own :-)Raagahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14736416344880614248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-7740469900413202802007-08-23T06:52:00.000-07:002007-08-23T06:52:00.000-07:00Made interesting reading & more importantly rung a...Made interesting reading & more importantly rung a bell more than anything else. Does not matter, forget the comments & do what you think is right.anagghhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12122674657797539553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-53415025222269265612007-08-21T00:51:00.000-07:002007-08-21T00:51:00.000-07:00The article truly depicted one's emotions.I have h...The article truly depicted one's emotions.I have had similar situations and still meet these kinda people.<BR/>I too have met people who can fall on feet when they want things to get done and dont bother later then.smiliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00958531959382486627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-8869282291409150452007-08-16T13:17:00.000-07:002007-08-16T13:17:00.000-07:00My objection really is to the high and mighty soun...My objection really is to the high and mighty sound of this line:<BR/>*** But even then, I didn't allow any recos :-) to be made ***<BR/><BR/>Although I havent been recommended for any of my jobs either, I dont see any harm in it. After all nobody gets a job because they were recommended .. they only get an interview(like you said in your write up) where the interviewee needs to prove her/his mettle regardless of having come in via a recommendation or not.<BR/><BR/>Other than that, the sentiment of your article did resonate with me and it is rather nicely written.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-32201678916225941292007-08-16T03:39:00.000-07:002007-08-16T03:39:00.000-07:00Now I get your point :-)I have gone through the ph...Now I get your point :-)<BR/><BR/>I have gone through the phase of uncertainty... just a year ago... after I got married and moved cities. But even then, I didn't allow any recos :-) to be made.<BR/><BR/>And you can't hold the fact that pushy people recommended them... for or against them! Right :-)Raagahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14736416344880614248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-11140443106701096872007-08-16T03:28:00.000-07:002007-08-16T03:28:00.000-07:00Dear Superwoman ;), you really must go through tha...Dear Superwoman ;), you really must go through that phase of wishing, hoping, praying that the company holding the next interview has something to offer that you really really want....its a feeling that you wont forget in a hurry :)<BR/><BR/>I am not advocating recommendations and frankly, i had to fight off well meaning family and friends who were just dying to get me a 'fantastic' job even before companies came on campus!!<BR/><BR/>But the point i was trying to make was just an add on to your article.... that in my experience, candidates who have been recommended have been rather embarassed at the fact that they were at an interview because of a reco..i always found them pretty harmless and sweet, quite different from the pushy people who recommended them!Damitrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06346617434366298124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-49035489225835581582007-08-16T00:04:00.000-07:002007-08-16T00:04:00.000-07:00@Damitra: Anxious to get my first job... somehow I...@Damitra: Anxious to get my first job... somehow I wasn't. Maybe because I got my pre placement offers long before I graduated.<BR/> <BR/>But even when I needed to move to a specific city, I never used any favours to get a job anywhere. And I wouldn't ever.<BR/><BR/>But I didn't understand the last bit...Raagahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14736416344880614248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-38356934597913758912007-08-15T04:38:00.000-07:002007-08-15T04:38:00.000-07:00hmmmm...i never thot about it this way...at the ri...hmmmm...i never thot about it this way...at the risk of sounding 'holier than thou' i must admit i always thought of how anxious i was to get my first job....and in most cases, candidates are thankfully unlike the people who recommend them!!Damitrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06346617434366298124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-10630934738084269542007-08-14T19:08:00.000-07:002007-08-14T19:08:00.000-07:00@Laksh: Welcome to the Online Raga :-) Your uncle ...@Laksh: Welcome to the Online Raga :-) Your uncle set a very good precedent. In today's world however, it seems to be a dying trend.Raagahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14736416344880614248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-65525291682748307512007-08-14T19:07:00.000-07:002007-08-14T19:07:00.000-07:00@Revathi: It takes all sorts. I'll definitely writ...@Revathi: It takes all sorts. I'll definitely write about that sometime soon.Raagahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14736416344880614248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-48854306390290792922007-08-14T11:09:00.000-07:002007-08-14T11:09:00.000-07:00Your post reminds me of my Uncle who retired as th...Your post reminds me of my Uncle who retired as the ED of one of the banks. He set a precedent as one who did not mix personal with professional life and I was and still am proud of having someone I knew set a good example for us. <BR/><BR/>Keep up the good work. I can empathize with what you write though I am not in HR myself. You have a nice personality and it shines through in your writing.Lakshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05503711851256255540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-5333882095997818412007-08-13T06:35:00.000-07:002007-08-13T06:35:00.000-07:00I guess I got very emotional typing, too many erro...I guess I got very emotional typing, too many errors:<BR/><BR/>Sometimes my husband says I have high standards for living, which he is proud of. But he also says, expecting others to have such high standards is hazardous too. Because, like in your blog, I get disppointed when people ask for undue favors without thinking twice about it and how it will affect the friendship/relationship if I couldn't comply.<BR/>However, why should I care about how they take my response? After all, they are the ones who put the friendship in jeopardy by demeaning it, right? I have come across so many people who "make" "friends" just to get a return. I rather not have such friends for the heck of it.<BR/>It is very true people cannot seperate our profession from us, the person :(<BR/>Can you also write an article on unprofessionalism at work?Revathihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17604252078837753541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-65863767604452337102007-08-13T06:32:00.000-07:002007-08-13T06:32:00.000-07:00Sometimes my husband says I have high standards fo...Sometimes my husband says I have high standards for living, which he is proud of. But he also says, expecting others to have such high standards is hazardous too. Because, like in your blog, I get disppointed when people ask for undue favors without thinking twice about it and how it will affect the friendship/relationship if I couldn't comply.<BR/>However, why should I care about how they take my response? After, they are the one who put the friendship in jeopardy by demeaning it, right? I have across so many people who make "friends" just to get a return. I rather not have such friends for the heck of it.<BR/>It is very true people cannot seperate our profession from us, the person :(<BR/>Can you also write an article on unprofessionalism at work?Revathihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17604252078837753541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-73779140483705412242007-08-12T05:29:00.000-07:002007-08-12T05:29:00.000-07:00@Deepthi: It is a plea.@Pretty Woman: The thing is...@Deepthi: It is a plea.<BR/><BR/>@Pretty Woman: The thing is that we rarely have motives, and if we do, we lay our cards up front. I guess the mistake lies in expecting the same of others.Raagahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14736416344880614248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-49465111498633775392007-08-12T05:28:00.000-07:002007-08-12T05:28:00.000-07:00@Chitra: My sister in profession!! I am sure you k...@Chitra: My sister in profession!! I am sure you know EXACTLY how it feels.Raagahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14736416344880614248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26320121.post-53871237338957520392007-08-11T10:30:00.000-07:002007-08-11T10:30:00.000-07:00its hard to find genuine people who talk to you/ m...its hard to find genuine people who talk to you/ make friends with you without any other motive...its sad but true....I personally try to be polite, smile and keep my distance!!<BR/><BR/>btw, looks like you are back with a bang on raaga! :DPretty Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13872668669569076341noreply@blogger.com